The thought of a divorce can be daunting, even before taking that first step in the process. It may be something you cannot face dealing with and would rather not come to terms with right now.

These types of emotions are completely normal, the most important thing is to put yourself first at this stage. Emotions may run high, and it can be difficult to see the best solution. However, things will eventually work out after finding the best way to navigate yourself through.

Let’s say you have been focusing on other things, work, or children, to which you then receive a letter or email addressed to you causing your nightmare to become a reality. This blog intends to put your mind at ease and assure you that there is no need to panic.

You may not have had access to legal advice yet, so it is understandable that panicking may seem like the best option should you receive a letter from solicitors representing your spouse. If you are already having a bad day, it may be best to close down your laptop or switch off your phone and deal with it tomorrow or even the day after. Take some time to prepare yourself - it will benefit you in the long run to begin the process with a level head.

An experienced solicitor should not approach you in a way which makes you feel pressured or at fault. The first initial communication should minimise confrontation and put forward an amicable attitude. This way a more desired outcome in likely to be achieved. Regardless of this, some solicitors work in their own way. If you find yourself at the receiving end of a hostile letter which undermines you, it may be tempting to react and contest what is being said. This reaction is one which feels right at the time but could cost you valuable time and money in the future.

If there are children involved, this provides even more reason to try and start the proceedings as you mean to go on – with any child/children becoming the main driving force to which you intend to reach an agreement.  Once you have read the letter, your response at this stage should be one which has taken careful consideration.  Try to keep communication open and respectful if this is possible. Being able to maintain a good level of communication is going to make the process easier, for example, if you are required to attend mediation at a later stage.

The divorce process can be intimidating, however, obtaining your own legal advice will inevitably reduce the pressure and stress. An experienced solicitor will be able to support you and use their specialist skills as a way of communicating on your behalf.

You can also choose to directly respond yourself, and it is good to know that this is not unusual in these situations. Either way, it is important that you are able to remain calm and try not to do anything you may regret, like losing your temper and sending an email which could work in their favour. You should try to decide independently on what your desired outcome is, which will make it easier to communicate and reach an agreement in reasonable time.

Our team of specialist solicitors are only a phone call away (01788 555042) should you require any advice or support with divorce/separation proceedings. There is no better time than now to turn over a New Leaf.